We set ourselves up for failure when we get this wrong about emotional regulation. One of the mistakes I made when I first started trying to work on my own emotional regulation skills was to believe that being emotionally regulated meant always being calm. And when I couldn’t do it, when I…
Tag: children
Would You Break The Law For Your Child? Can You Imagine?
by Jessica Martin-Weber Some version of it is so common it is almost a cliché: “I would do anything for my child.” Most of us mean it too. There’s nothing we wouldn’t do for our children. Mostly. Certainly nothing we wouldn’t do for their safety, to keep them out of harm’s way. Would you break…
I Loved My Child But I Didn’t Like Her
by Jessica Martin-Weber *Edited to add this content warning- difficult relationship with parent discussed including parent not liking their child.* I had a child I didn’t connect with well. For some reason we didn’t click. It was more than that. We didn’t click, we didn’t connect, we didn’t understand each other, we didn’t enjoy…
How To Talk About Others’ Reproduction
by Jessica Martin-Weber There have been a number of articles and blog posts written about what to or not to say to families with only one child or a number of children and maybe even a few to people without children (not many on this one). Yet it seems like there’s always another one. Apparently…
Determining Age-Appropriate Experiences for Our Children
At what point should parents allow their children to get places on their own? What is the perfect age for kids to go to the local playground without supervision and play for a while? Or just go on a bike ride around the block? These are difficult questions, especially in an age when it feels…
Welcoming the Whole Child
When parents welcome a baby into their lives, it can take them a long, long time to recognize that they haven’t just welcomed a cute little bundle of needs and smiles into their lives; they have allowed a whole other person to be a part of their daily lives. It is so easy to…
Clothing-optional Home
This is a post I made on Facebook yesterday while it was making changes to its algorithm; I thought I had lost it. But many of our followers found it and a few of them went ahead and messaged it to me (thank you Luci, Charlotte, and Amity!). Thank you all for your support. When…
Cultivating Wonder for a Better Tomorrow
“Why is it that the human mind can sort of grasp ‘forever’ but they can’t grasp ‘infinity’? Aren’t they basically the same thing?” My 12 yr old daughter, who we have affectionately dubbed our “Storyteller” for our online audience, reminds me often about the pure joy of wonder. She asked me this question a couple…
How I acquired magical powers
I now have magical powers… Thanks to an amazing 5 yr old boy I spent about 15 minutes with last night. His big sister and our Storyteller had been hanging out and it was time to take her home. She recently moved to another house in town, and Storyteller was eager to take the nickel…