Two or three years ago, our daughter, Squigglebug (now 8) blew us away with her understanding of relationships and what’s important in life. She entered a phase marked by these kinds of questions: “You know what’s more important than cupcakes?” “What is?” I would reply. “Love.” She would ask this question about all sorts of…
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Chicago Marriage Court Judge Amazes Couple by Keeping it Real
19 years ago today, I took “the L” to meet my fiancée at the Cook County Marriage Court on Clark street in downtown Chicago. We went to the lower level of the old building and waited our turn to stand before a judge to officially become what we had already pledged in our hearts: to…
8 Ways We Celebrate Valentine’s Day As Feminists
As many of you know, Jessica and I consider ourselves feminists. You may wonder: how do feminists celebrate Valentine’s Day? As two people who have the utmost respect for each other, and are also still deeply in love with each other after 18 years together, we have developed a few thoughts on the matter. Here…
How to Be a Supportive Partner
The single most desirable quality in a partner today is perhaps that they be a supportive one. But who actually has such a gem? Are they a myth? After 18 years with the same partner and so many ups and downs with her and our now 6 children, I believe that having a supportive partner…
Beyond Relationship Advice
Did you know that every 5 minutes an article is published on the topic of romantic relationships? Actually, I just made that up. But it sure feels that way. From blogs to articles featured on trusted online news sources, newspapers, magazines, self-help books, talk shows, virtual discussion forums, to local discussion groups for men, women,…
Moving 2500 Miles Without a Safety Net – Crazy Faith or Crazy Stupid
9 days ago, I left Texas in our old minivan that had previously broken down on two separate occasions on the way to Colorado, without a clue as to where we were going to live when we all arrived in the Pacific NW. We felt it was the right thing to do, and had searched…