It’s time for guys to stop being afraid of periods. That’s right, I mean menstrual cycles, and yes, I believe that men are afraid of them. #notallmen (beat you to it). But still, #somanymen Men need to grow a pair (that’s sexist) a bit in maturity and learn to see members of the opposite sex…
Tag: relationships
So You’re A New Dad? Here’s Some Advice.
Your baby is here! Time to throw all expectations out of the window. As a father of 6 wonderful human beings, I would say that the easiest thing about adding another family member has been adjusting to the feeling of being a father – or being a father again. I can’t say much that most…
To Rape or Not to Rape
At what point is it ok to abuse or rape your spouse? When is it acceptable to abuse or rape the people you claim to love? There seems to be a bit of confusion about this among people I have known in recent years. More than I thought possible, considering how obvious the answer to…
Note to Parents: “You’ve Got This.”
If you are a parent, there’s something I’ve been meaning to tell you: “You’ve got this” Parenting is a wild rollercoaster ride. Anyone who tells you otherwise has either never had kids, or never allowed their kids to be kids—or they’re in serious denial. Whatever your journey so far, it is no accident that you…
Chicago Marriage Court Judge Amazes Couple by Keeping it Real
19 years ago today, I took “the L” to meet my fiancée at the Cook County Marriage Court on Clark street in downtown Chicago. We went to the lower level of the old building and waited our turn to stand before a judge to officially become what we had already pledged in our hearts: to…
Managing Atomosophallophobia – Men’s One Sexual Need
At the risk of ruining the effect of this slightly unconventional post, I need to spell out that this is a work of satire; meaning, that it isn’t to be taken at face value, or even seriously (though it does have some underlying serious issues worthy of an honest and world-changing discussion). It is a work…
Teaching What it Means to Be a Man. Or Woman.
We were recently invited to have a conversation with a bunch of 6th and 7th graders about what it means to be a man or a woman, including answering any questions they had about sex. After balking at the idea, and bringing up all the reasons we weren’t qualified to guide such a talk, only…
The Importance of How We Communicate
“Haven’t your parents taught you any manners?” Taken aback by the aggressive and rather rude question, I tried to find a quick and appropriate response to the question – not an easy task for my slow-processing brain. “Um, what is this in reference to?” “Haven’t your parents taught you any manners?” Taking my cue from…
Our Key to Staying in Love: Intimacy
Jessica and I ended up having an unplanned couch date last night. Little kids were in bed, big kids were headed in that direction, and Jessica and I snuggled up and watched an episode of Call the Midwife (great show – we give it the highest recommendation). Part of what we love about that show…
The Importance of Shared Experiences
My kids are in our “library” – a fancy name for a room that has a collection of books, a piano, and our beloved television set, which, as we strive to understate its importance we won’t reward by naming a room after, choosing to emphasize our beloved books instead even though library sounds so much…