“Hi! Thanks for inviting (our child’s name) over for (their child’s name) birthday party sleepover! I have some questions for you, I’ll send those over and you can get back to me whenever works best for you. Thanks!” This is our typical text when one of our children has been invited to spend the night…
Category: parenting
What Emotional Regulation Is… And What It Isn’t
We set ourselves up for failure when we get this wrong about emotional regulation. One of the mistakes I made when I first started trying to work on my own emotional regulation skills was to believe that being emotionally regulated meant always being calm. And when I couldn’t do it, when I…
Relationship, Family, and Parenting Coaching
Click here for more information about Private Relationship, Family, and Parenting Coaching. Sometimes relationships just click and feel like they hardly require any effort on our part. They give us life, energize us, give us hope, encourage us, are meaningful is more ways than we are even aware of or can put down into words….
Being Responsible vs. Being in Charge
by Jessica Martin-Weber Children need the opportunity to fail in their responsibilities, experience accountability, admit their mistakes, identify what went wrong, and be supported in trying again. But if parents never let their children experience failure in their responsibilities, if parents always swoop in to prevent failure, are their children ever actually responsible? Responsibilities:…
A Message for Mothers – You Matter. Every Day.
I really wanted to post something meaningful and encouraging for all the moms here before Mother’s Day, but I got stuck in the Coronavirus time-warp, realizing only 2 days before Mother’s Day that it was… 2 days before Mother’s Day. So, if there was one thing that I would say to encourage mothers any other…
Would You Break The Law For Your Child? Can You Imagine?
by Jessica Martin-Weber Some version of it is so common it is almost a cliché: “I would do anything for my child.” Most of us mean it too. There’s nothing we wouldn’t do for our children. Mostly. Certainly nothing we wouldn’t do for their safety, to keep them out of harm’s way. Would you break…
How To Talk About Others’ Reproduction
by Jessica Martin-Weber There have been a number of articles and blog posts written about what to or not to say to families with only one child or a number of children and maybe even a few to people without children (not many on this one). Yet it seems like there’s always another one. Apparently…
(Some of) What I’ve Learned On Parenting Extroverts and Introverts
Sometimes it is all just too much. Life that is. More specifically, people. This is our 6yo this past Sunday morning. Visiting what will be her new classroom for church school, this little introvert was overwhelmed by all the people and noise so we found a nook and a finger labyrinth for her to center…
Raising Girls Feels Like Throwing Money Out the Window
The following gifs are my reaction to one with the same image that got popular this week with the caption “How It Feels Raising Girls.” We found it decidedly not funny, as it expresses that raising girls is like throwing money out the window – as if it is a waste of money to…
What would happen if we were teaching HOW TO NOT RAPE?
by Jessica Martin-Weber “WHY are there workshops on how to avoid being a victim but there aren’t workshops on how to avoid being an attacker?” She had a point. I encouraged her to lower her voice and be mindful of how others were processing in the moment but I couldn’t deny that she was right….