“Hi! Thanks for inviting (our child’s name) over for (their child’s name) birthday party sleepover! I have some questions for you, I’ll send those over and you can get back to me whenever works best for you. Thanks!” This is our typical text when one of our children has been invited to spend the night…
Author: JMartin-Weber
What Emotional Regulation Is… And What It Isn’t
We set ourselves up for failure when we get this wrong about emotional regulation. One of the mistakes I made when I first started trying to work on my own emotional regulation skills was to believe that being emotionally regulated meant always being calm. And when I couldn’t do it, when I…
One man’s thoughts on the issue of modesty and breastfeeding in public
By Jeremy Martin-Weber Women are allowed to breastfeed anywhere they are legally allowed to be. This isn’t my opinion. This is the law in all states in the US. I probably wouldn’t have known that if my wife hadn’t started a breastfeeding support community. Be that as it may, it is the law. And social…
From Hurtful Conflict to Connecting Conflict
When we would have conflict he would leave. Go to a different room, go for a walk, head to the bathroom, etc. Get away. I would follow him. Escalating. Getting louder and more frantic. I felt unheard and like he didn’t care about the issue… or me. And worse, his walking away triggered my…
Relationship, Family, and Parenting Coaching
Click here for more information about Private Relationship, Family, and Parenting Coaching. Sometimes relationships just click and feel like they hardly require any effort on our part. They give us life, energize us, give us hope, encourage us, are meaningful is more ways than we are even aware of or can put down into words….
Being Responsible vs. Being in Charge
by Jessica Martin-Weber Children need the opportunity to fail in their responsibilities, experience accountability, admit their mistakes, identify what went wrong, and be supported in trying again. But if parents never let their children experience failure in their responsibilities, if parents always swoop in to prevent failure, are their children ever actually responsible? Responsibilities:…
A Message for Mothers – You Matter. Every Day.
I really wanted to post something meaningful and encouraging for all the moms here before Mother’s Day, but I got stuck in the Coronavirus time-warp, realizing only 2 days before Mother’s Day that it was… 2 days before Mother’s Day. So, if there was one thing that I would say to encourage mothers any other…
Would You Break The Law For Your Child? Can You Imagine?
by Jessica Martin-Weber Some version of it is so common it is almost a cliché: “I would do anything for my child.” Most of us mean it too. There’s nothing we wouldn’t do for our children. Mostly. Certainly nothing we wouldn’t do for their safety, to keep them out of harm’s way. Would you break…
I Loved My Child But I Didn’t Like Her
by Jessica Martin-Weber *Edited to add this content warning- difficult relationship with parent discussed including parent not liking their child.* I had a child I didn’t connect with well. For some reason we didn’t click. It was more than that. We didn’t click, we didn’t connect, we didn’t understand each other, we didn’t enjoy…
My Evolving Definition of Sexy
By Jeremy Martin-Weber I find this woman… sexy. I know sexy is totally in the eye of the beholder, you don’t have to find her sexy, that’s ok, I do. Mostly though, I’m in love with her. So much of society’s messaging is that men are controlled by their sexual urges and only see skin…
