When we would have conflict he would leave. Go to a different room, go for a walk, head to the bathroom, etc. Get away. I would follow him. Escalating. Getting louder and more frantic. I felt unheard and like he didn’t care about the issue… or me. And worse, his walking away triggered my…
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Relationship, Family, and Parenting Coaching
Click here for more information about Private Relationship, Family, and Parenting Coaching. Sometimes relationships just click and feel like they hardly require any effort on our part. They give us life, energize us, give us hope, encourage us, are meaningful is more ways than we are even aware of or can put down into words….
My Evolving Definition of Sexy
By Jeremy Martin-Weber I find this woman… sexy. I know sexy is totally in the eye of the beholder, you don’t have to find her sexy, that’s ok, I do. Mostly though, I’m in love with her. So much of society’s messaging is that men are controlled by their sexual urges and only see skin…
Finding Autonomy- of abuse, single parenting, and not believing you are enough.
by Shannon DeLong ****Content Warning**** This article makes mention of domestic abuse. Today was Mother’s day, and it was hard. Despite this being the second Mother’s Day since my separation from my now ex-husband, this one seemed to leave me feeling the weight of my single-momdom much heavier. I didn’t get to sleep-in, there was no…
What Is More Important Than Cupcakes?
Two or three years ago, our daughter, Squigglebug (now 8) blew us away with her understanding of relationships and what’s important in life. She entered a phase marked by these kinds of questions: “You know what’s more important than cupcakes?” “What is?” I would reply. “Love.” She would ask this question about all sorts of…
To Rape or Not to Rape
At what point is it ok to abuse or rape your spouse? When is it acceptable to abuse or rape the people you claim to love? There seems to be a bit of confusion about this among people I have known in recent years. More than I thought possible, considering how obvious the answer to…
Chicago Marriage Court Judge Amazes Couple by Keeping it Real
19 years ago today, I took “the L” to meet my fiancée at the Cook County Marriage Court on Clark street in downtown Chicago. We went to the lower level of the old building and waited our turn to stand before a judge to officially become what we had already pledged in our hearts: to…
Our Key to Staying in Love: Intimacy
Jessica and I ended up having an unplanned couch date last night. Little kids were in bed, big kids were headed in that direction, and Jessica and I snuggled up and watched an episode of Call the Midwife (great show – we give it the highest recommendation). Part of what we love about that show…
8 Ways We Celebrate Valentine’s Day As Feminists
As many of you know, Jessica and I consider ourselves feminists. You may wonder: how do feminists celebrate Valentine’s Day? As two people who have the utmost respect for each other, and are also still deeply in love with each other after 18 years together, we have developed a few thoughts on the matter. Here…
How to Be a Supportive Partner
The single most desirable quality in a partner today is perhaps that they be a supportive one. But who actually has such a gem? Are they a myth? After 18 years with the same partner and so many ups and downs with her and our now 6 children, I believe that having a supportive partner…