When we would have conflict he would leave. Go to a different room, go for a walk, head to the bathroom, etc. Get away. I would follow him. Escalating. Getting louder and more frantic. I felt unheard and like he didn’t care about the issue… or me. And worse, his walking away triggered my…
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Relationship, Family, and Parenting Coaching
Click here for more information about Private Relationship, Family, and Parenting Coaching. Sometimes relationships just click and feel like they hardly require any effort on our part. They give us life, energize us, give us hope, encourage us, are meaningful is more ways than we are even aware of or can put down into words….
Being Responsible vs. Being in Charge
by Jessica Martin-Weber Children need the opportunity to fail in their responsibilities, experience accountability, admit their mistakes, identify what went wrong, and be supported in trying again. But if parents never let their children experience failure in their responsibilities, if parents always swoop in to prevent failure, are their children ever actually responsible? Responsibilities:…
I Loved My Child But I Didn’t Like Her
by Jessica Martin-Weber *Edited to add this content warning- difficult relationship with parent discussed including parent not liking their child.* I had a child I didn’t connect with well. For some reason we didn’t click. It was more than that. We didn’t click, we didn’t connect, we didn’t understand each other, we didn’t enjoy…
My Evolving Definition of Sexy
By Jeremy Martin-Weber I find this woman… sexy. I know sexy is totally in the eye of the beholder, you don’t have to find her sexy, that’s ok, I do. Mostly though, I’m in love with her. So much of society’s messaging is that men are controlled by their sexual urges and only see skin…
The Partnered Life – Dealing With Trauma
by Jessica Martin-Weber This past weekend was rough for our family and as we continue to deal with the aftermath of some trauma two of our children experienced (separate incidents and we’re not ok but we’re ok, just not at a place where we can share publicly about any of it- one was a very…
Finding Autonomy- of abuse, single parenting, and not believing you are enough.
by Shannon DeLong ****Content Warning**** This article makes mention of domestic abuse. Today was Mother’s day, and it was hard. Despite this being the second Mother’s Day since my separation from my now ex-husband, this one seemed to leave me feeling the weight of my single-momdom much heavier. I didn’t get to sleep-in, there was no…
Beyond the Power of Silence
There are things that no one wants to talk about – until those things happen to them and then they turn to the anonymous internet where they hope that someone else has done the unthinkable: shared their own experience of that very same thing. But they could never talk about that themselves, could they? Everyone…
What Is More Important Than Cupcakes?
Two or three years ago, our daughter, Squigglebug (now 8) blew us away with her understanding of relationships and what’s important in life. She entered a phase marked by these kinds of questions: “You know what’s more important than cupcakes?” “What is?” I would reply. “Love.” She would ask this question about all sorts of…
When You Don’t Like Your Own Kids
“You don’t have to like Lizzie – but you still have to treat her with respect.” “You don’t have to play with Roger – but that doesn’t mean that you get to be mean to him.” “Could there be something that they are having a hard time with that has hurt them and that’s why…